What makes you so sure?
For the past five months I have to admit that most of my days are spent in the company of the boyfriend; be it luxurious long days skipping around Singapore or just a short ride home together after work/school. It’s hard to blog about days as such as even though to me those days make the best days I’ve had in a long while, I’m sure re-runs of “We laughed all the way while walking home, talking about our days and such” could prove to be a bore one to you readers :P
But anyway, that’s not the point of this post. The thing is, the boyfriend and I, sometimes we tend to talk and plan about the future, or rather, our future. I have to admit that it gives me a sense of security when I know that he’s in it with me and that at least, right now, he is willing to commit. We Leos, I read somewhere, love to be in long term relationships and that I would have to agree with. The very idea of short relationships just turn me off big time.
However, I shall not deny that there are moments when shadows of doubt overcast as I recall the times where myself and my previous exs too made plans and the last time I checked, they were all down the drain. And when such moments come, sometimes I feel that I shouldn’t make such grand plans, after all, who are we to know what will happen to us 2 - 3 years down the road? The feeling of not being able to achieve what you have drawn out kind of sucks.
Like some say, we humans plan but only God has the power to decide. Case in point - my mom’s friend was with her boyfriend for 10 years but on the wedding night itself, they filed for a divorce. Also, a relative divorced after having one child, ending 7 - 8 years of courtship.
And yet, here I am, still wielding words and Dua with hopes that somehow God agrees. Even though some say that 5 months is truly too short a moment to be making big plans, there’s something about this relationship (and myself) which makes me feel this way :)
I guess somewhere deep in me still lies an optimist and a lovestruck lady, ey? Kekeke.
Do you make long term plans with your partners? Why? And oh, is it weird/funny to have told 5 or more other partners before your current partners that you love them and dish out millions of promises to be reused and recycled over time?
P/s. All 60 over comments dated till 09/12/07 replied. Pardon me for the long wait and if I missed out a comment or two and don’t hesitate to alert me! :) Have a good week ahead, kids!
we’ve already decided on the names of our children..
who will be the disciplinarian, and who will be the bad guy..
funny thing is marriage/children is still a distant future for us
Haha..
It’s great to make long-term plans, something to look forward to in the future so that you can work on the present.
You took the words exactly out of my head ;) Sometyhing to look forward to… you’re SO right!
I’ve been with the partner 6yrs come next Monday and we’re still in the ‘if’ stage and not the ‘when’ stage when we talk about our future together. Both of us still have a lot to work out since he’s still in school and I’m already working. Take it slow and see how things go.
WOW SIX YEARS?! hahaha. eh alamak, i reply so lambat but HAPPY ANNIVERSARY nonetheless! :) Your situation sounds like mine… but i guess you’re handling things in a different manner, where some would say more mature ;)
ehh this is like my post ah! hahaha anw enjoy the company, you can plan all you want but don’t place high hopes lest you’ll be disappointed for after which you’ll be singing que sera sera :)
hwhehehe yah ah! the one you did and i commented also kan? hehe… anyway yeah, maybe i’ll get disappointed but it’s ok. That’s what makes life more colorful, as they say.
sometimes i wonder how our parents/grandparents’ marriage can be for eternity padahal ada yang kes match-make love. cuma kenal on the nikah day itself but still last long. weird eh.
eh cepat ah kahwin! i cant wait to see all my friends getting married.
*dances around faddy’s pelamin naked*
I heard an opinion, that arranged marraiges leave couples no choice but to work things out. marriages due to love make it a CHOICE for the couple, so many other things tend to affect the outcome :/
Hi Faddy. Hmmm… isn’t it too early for you? :) Never too early to plan I guess however don’t bring your hopes and dreams too far away, lest getting hurt. InsyaAllah, less than 2 years, I’ll be tying the knot and I am all happy/excited/nervous/and “what ifs” feeling all mixed in. hehhe…
All the best to you and your BF ;)
haha yup, i do think its rather early, but I guess it gives me some sort of hope. Getting hurt, is perhaps part and parcel of life, ey. Anyway yay! Do invite me okay! hehe congrats!
I agree with you.
We can plan for all we care but in the end it’s still in God’s hands. Anything can happen.
Being optimistic is great as long as we don’t get too carried away lah. =)
Ditto! Thanks for the advise fanahana :D
As for me,I have been with my partner 8yrs now & we are still in the ‘if’ stage…Yes,we do talk about future plan but ‘”when’” stages, we dare not plan to that extend… Both of us still have a lot to things to catch up cause we both just starts our own career path.We take one things at a time.What we both know & believe “cinta kerana Allah”.insya’allah we can go far…
All the best to you&your your BF,ya :)
8 years and still in the ‘if’ stage? i feel so melebih now hahahahaha… anyway thank you for the well wishes, they’re very much appreciated :)
planning is essential… but of course lah… fate plays a part..
Insya Allah…
InsyaAllah :)
Dare to dream. for every dream is a niat. But bear in mind, just becareful what you wish for. All i say is ALL the best. May time tell all tales..
But bear in mind, just becareful what you wish for << I so totally agree with you babe.. and yes, insyaallah time will bring only the good stuff.
I do make plans with my guy.. during the first few months into our r/s we make lots of plans.. now having been together for 4yrs, i realise our plans change along the way.. it’s ok to plan and talk abt the future together but just keep in mind that things may change along the way, and like they said, GOD decides our fate.
Your story gives me hopes that the same could happen between me and haikal. Insyaallah… And congrats for being able to keep togther for 4 years and counting!
The future scares me. We plan and plan but I know things don’t always turn out the way we intend them to. It’s really frightening!!!!!!!!!!
All we can do is pray that we get our plans fulfilled.
haha ok your many exclamation marks scare me hehehe.. anyway, yup.. true what you said. Everything tend to change with time and choices made.